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M Y P E R S P E C T I V E I N L O V E
“…this idea that love overtakes you is nonsense. This is but a polite manifestation of sex. To love another you have to undertake some fragment of their destiny.”
We love in another’s soul whatever of ourselves we can deposit in it; the greater the deposit, the greater the love.”
Love is that fragile flower of most uncommon beauty. One which can never be found by purpose alone while wandering through life’s gardens. But one whose color and fragrance is most pure and meaningful when discovered by accident while tending to the more mundane duties of the common man. A diamond found lying quietly amongst the broken glass of childhood’s shattered windows.
To love another is the supreme sacrifice of self. For we must give freely and completely of ourselves to another, without reservation or condition. To give less serves only to hinder the growth of our evolution from self sustaining isolation to a greater joining of universal awareness. As children we love by instinct but it is a selfish love. One which results out of necessity, born of helpless reliance on others for survival. It is an innocent love, free of complicated psychosocial encumbrances or expectations. But it is a hungry love which takes much more than it gives in the beginning.
We set forth on our journey to love’s gratification with only those sadly ineffectual tools we developed as children. Their purpose, long served, has outlived its usefulness. We search for nirvana unclothed and without protection from the harshness of the world in which it may or may not exist at all. By trial and many errors, we ruefully discern that the truest and most satisfying of emotional forces, that which we call love, often appears to be no more than a taunting mirage. An apparition of beauty which lies just beyond our seemingly limited reach. We strive and toil endlessly, enchanted by love’s simple promise of a more complete and meaningful existence. A communal reality of two souls enjoined by identical and mutually fulfilling sentiment. Ahhh, such is the essence of wakeful dreams and conscious imaginings.
The strength of love lies in its diversity. It possesses the unique ability to evolve, change, and permutate over the course of our lives. Just as we grow outwardly we must also grow inwardly. Our thoughts, realizations, and perceptions are given credence by our individual experiences on the separate paths we follow in our quest for love. And as love is an integral part of our inner selves, so it must grow and mature as well. It possesses the ability to adapt to its internal as well as its external environment. It not only changes as we change but it also ebbs and flows outwardly dependent on the receptivity of those to whom it is directed.

During certain periods of our lives love may seem to fade or even disappear entirely from our emotional palette. But once conceived it never truly ceases to exist. Love is the ultimate survivor. It has a will to live as strong as the will of its human container. If necessary, it may hibernate, withdraw like a turtle into its shell. When it is rebuffed or rejected by the harshness and cold complacency which can be so common in others, it folds in on itself until which time it again feels safe to venture out into a more nurturing environment. But it does not die.
We say we fall in love but it is a misnomer. We do not fall anywhere. We simply open our hearts and allow the love inside to project its energy towards the heart of another. If it is well received and properly tended, it creates a spiritual bond between the two hearts. However, love is an individualized emotion. It is a part of who we are and just as no two people share the exact same emotional make-up, neither can they share totally identical expressions of their love for one another. The beauty of a strong and viable relationship is seen when two souls meet and the colors of their love complement each other.
We are in love when we can find that fragile state of being where our individual love demands no more than the other person can give and when we can provide the necessary energies to allow them to be fulfilled as well. Love cares nothing for equality but it insists on balance. That balance is possible only when both people are satisfied that their own expectations and needs in a relationship are being adequately provided for.
M Y P E R S P E C T I V E O N F A I L E D L O V E
The first step towards a failed love affair is taken when we begin to feel we are giving more of ourselves than is being rejuvenated by the influx of love from our partner. That however, is not the fault of love but a sign that, in our own perception, we are not being compensated for our efforts. The next, and often fatal, step is when we decide to fall back on that old learned behavior of using the expression of our love as a manipulative tool to gain that which we most strongly desire. Love seeks only love, but egotistical asp

once, when young and innocent
i found another way—
derivation,
from consensus,
from the norm.

the tumult
that ensued
caused much wringing
of their hands,
‘our child is
no more hidden
in the guise
of young demeanor.’

they said tainted,
you were baited,
you will mourn
your too young entry
to a world
of primal feelings
dark with lust.

hear their anger
feel their fear,
guilty, i touched flesh!
they whisper,
i have fallen
into a pit of fire.

but i’ve come
of age now
and know
just what i did.
i touched him
lost my breath—
i’m attached
no closer match.
they were wrong
i still hang on—
i am witness
of exactly
how to love.

We all have a first love

French is a language of love,

On a tous une vie a nous meme, plain de veu, et de chagrin, on esperonne des reve, qui ne se realise pas me qui ne que un reve.

Des histoire pas comme les autre, des histoire que nous imaginons, des histiore a’amour, de la peine a’amour, des reve d’amour qui ne finis pas.

Des histiore que seul la personne qui reve de son passion d’amour pour quel un, elle seule pe les comprend son histoire d’amour pour cette personne. Seul cette personne pe partages se reve avec toi.

La plus par de se reve sont ecritte dons a journal ou meme un papier plein de pousiere, bien cache ou personne pe les lire.

Ever wonder if that cute, hunky, simple, tall guy with you in a public jeepney, inside the MRT or LRT is a bi or gay?

Are you tired of the old fasion way of just staring in the eye of one another but not really getting any clear anwers to whom youre having eye contact with until it was too late and you just say,, “sayang!! ang cute pa nmn nya!!” and you just watch this person as you both part ways and then there is still this “nakaw tingin” but you are just too afraid to approach, not knowing that the guy was also interested in you?

Well its about time to do something about it!! this flirt signs can be done in public with no hassels AT ALL. no fear of having all the non-third sexes figure out it was actually a flirtatious act..

Help me spread out this new kewl stuff to all your networks, may it be friendster or what have you that have access to all other concerned and involved ones..

so lets get started.. lets say, you are in any public means of tranportation, say MRT, LRT, JEEP, FX or even in a private car. and you came across with this hot-looking guy that you cant even sense if he is bi, gay or straight, and you are interested with this person and so is the person is to you.. this is why we all need this to silently communicated and flirt…here is the flirt signs 101.

HOLD YOUR NOSE with one hand like wiping out oil shows your interest to a person.

HOLD YOUR CHIN as if checking all the unshaved beard shows you are interested back to the person.

PINCHING your left ear with one hand means you wanna know if the person is bi or gay.

if you are BI, you just need to LICK OR WET YOUR LIPS while looking at the person.

if you are GAY, you will need to WIPE YOUR EYES like you are wiping out eye dirts.

TOUCH YOUR HEAD, if you wanna know if the person is TOP or bottom, the same thing should be done if you are TOP.

REACH YOUR POCKET (your behind pocket) as if you’re reaching for your wallet if you are a bottom.

Now lets say you both understood each other but you didnt know whether the person wants to meet or wait outside of where you both are,, Just RUB YOUR HANDS TOGETHER as if you just put some alcogel on them means lets meet outside. then if the person rubs his hands together too, thats it!! you just caught a big fish out of a small pond.. hahaha

But of course if the person doesnt respond to any of these,, it only means two things

1. He is not yet familiar with this new flirt sign language
2. Or worst,, that cute guy you wanna take with you is a STRAIGHT!!